Age Appropriate Expectations

What is it like to see the world from a child’s eyes? Many have asked this question and many have provided various answers. What students of children have discovered is that this is a very complex questions. In the first six years of a child’s life, the brain is growing at a remarkable rate, adding billions and billions of cells. While the result may be a “big” brain, this does not mean that the brain is fully developed and certain things that an adult takes for granted remains a mystery for a child. Interestingly, the next 17 years or so, the brain goes through a “pruning” process, loping off many of the cells it produced. During these times of development, the context of a child and an adolescent plays an important role in how the brain develops. For example, did you know that children who are not read to as infants and toddlers began grade school with something like a 20.000 word deficit, which may not be made up by the time they graduate from high school. And all ;people have heard of peer pressure and the impact it has upon the personality development of adolescents. Environment is important and helps shape children and youth into the adults they will become.

This is why it is important to have appropriate expectations of what our children can and cannot do. Want to know what your house looks like to your child. Walk through it on your knees. What do you see? Well, you may notice that you look up a lot and things look larger than they may actually be. The different worldviews held by children and youth because of size and intellectual development are important to consider when we ask them to something, expect particular types of behaviors or interpret responses as being disrespectful. The links on this page will explore what types of expectations are appropriate, and what kinds are not.


This page explores what types of chores are appropriate for different age groups.


What kinds of behaviors are appropriate and what types are not? This page examines this concern.


How do we care for the needs of children? This page examines the different types of care important to different age groups.

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